{"type":"video","version":"1.0","html":"<iframe src=\"https://www.loom.com/embed/f9b18f56dafe495fb9f282dd2b58dc2e\" frameborder=\"0\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1440\" webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen></iframe>","height":1440,"width":1920,"provider_name":"Loom","provider_url":"https://www.loom.com","thumbnail_height":1440,"thumbnail_width":1920,"thumbnail_url":"https://cdn.loom.com/sessions/thumbnails/f9b18f56dafe495fb9f282dd2b58dc2e-808cca35df14ce41.gif","duration":3810.567,"title":"The CARE Model and Your User Guide","description":"This Loom explores how miscommunication and judgment between neurodivergent and neurotypical people often comes from false assumptions about how others think. The speaker connects patterns they have seen in conversations about partners, including their autistic and ADHD husband Jeffrey, and explains a “care model” with four steps: consider, ask, respond, and empower. They argue that everyone assumes “if I can do it, they can do it,” which can lead to criticism, and offer curiosity as the alternative. The Loom also introduces a 10 question “user guide” to map communication needs, time management, feedback preferences, values, and more using spectra rather than rigid boxes, noting 3.2 quintillion combinations after seven questions and 83 octillion after adding values."}