<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><oembed><type>video</type><version>1.0</version><html>&lt;iframe src=&quot;https://www.loom.com/embed/0d404845bd8446c8aef9f1c1e733b65e&quot; frameborder=&quot;0&quot; width=&quot;1280&quot; height=&quot;960&quot; webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen&gt;&lt;/iframe&gt;</html><height>960</height><width>1280</width><provider_name>Loom</provider_name><provider_url>https://www.loom.com</provider_url><thumbnail_height>960</thumbnail_height><thumbnail_width>1280</thumbnail_width><thumbnail_url>https://cdn.loom.com/sessions/thumbnails/0d404845bd8446c8aef9f1c1e733b65e-8258b9a5c49825aa.gif</thumbnail_url><duration>2008.027</duration><title>It’s Not You</title><description>This Loom explains why women can feel overlooked at work and presents a strategic approach to navigate workplaces that were never designed for them. The speaker, Dr. Kali Hussain, says that when she was working twice as hard and still getting passed over, the issue was the system, citing experiences like being talked over in meetings and having ideas repeated and credited to others. After almost walking away from a surgeon career when flexible scheduling requests led to offers being rescinded due to having 5 to 6 children, she shifted from trying to “out-affirm” to studying how workplaces function and negotiating strategically. She describes successfully interviewing while 8 months pregnant, wearing her hijab in the operating room, and negotiating schedule, moving expenses, and a sign-on bonus, then turning the approach into the Defiant Career Strategy used since 2020.</description></oembed>