<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><oembed><type>video</type><version>1.0</version><html>&lt;iframe src=&quot;https://www.loom.com/embed/fab8e36f87124889acf47059c56dc255&quot; frameborder=&quot;0&quot; width=&quot;1920&quot; height=&quot;1440&quot; webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen&gt;&lt;/iframe&gt;</html><height>1440</height><width>1920</width><provider_name>Loom</provider_name><provider_url>https://www.loom.com</provider_url><thumbnail_height>1440</thumbnail_height><thumbnail_width>1920</thumbnail_width><thumbnail_url>https://cdn.loom.com/sessions/thumbnails/fab8e36f87124889acf47059c56dc255-87a541167d717e4f.gif</thumbnail_url><duration>147.36</duration><title>Say This/Not This Defensive Employee Dialogue</title><description>In this video, I discuss how to effectively navigate defensive conversations with employees by shifting our language from judgment to curiosity. I provide specific examples of phrases to use that promote understanding and collaboration, such as acknowledging emotions and inviting dialogue. It&apos;s crucial to create an environment where employees feel seen and safe, as this fosters trust and problem-solving. I invite you to join our live office hours or role-play sessions to practice these techniques in real scenarios. For additional resources, check out the Manager&apos;s Script Vault, which includes valuable tools for high-stakes situations.</description></oembed>